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26 Aug

Let us now stop praising famous men (and women)

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After the Notre-Dame Cathedral in Paris nearly burned down in April, the French luxury-goods magnate François-Henri Pinault was celebrated for committing €100 million to reconstruct what he called ‘this jewel of our heritage’ and ushering in a flood of donations from other benefactors and companies. Though an impressive figure in the abstract, Pinault’s commitment reflected only 0.3 per cent of his family fortune. If he instead had the average net wealth for a French household and donated 0.3 per cent of his fortune, his commitment would total about €840. Not an insignificant sum for an average Frenchman, but who would refuse to give that sum if it garnered the praise and notoriety that followed Pinault’s donation?

We live in an age of excessive praise for the wealthy and powerful. The upper echelons of society bathe in a sea of honours, awards and celebrity. We see it in the glossy magazines and at the so-called ideas festivals, where billionaires are fawned over for their bons mots. We applaud philanthropists for their largesse, even if their charity will do little ultimate good for society, and even if their conduct in acquiring their fortune was reprehensible. We commend them for dabbling in politics or pushing school reform, before we see any results, and even if we have reason to doubt the good that they will do.

To criticise our praise for the wealthy and powerful as excessive inevitably raises the question of meritocracy. To what extent do we live in a meritocracy, and is that a good or a bad thing? Meritocracy is a form of social organisation that is founded on praise and blame. People signal who deserves power and status by praising them for their character, their talent, their productivity and their actions, and who merits demotion in status and power by blaming them for their vices, their ineptitude and their failings. Insofar as people’s assessments of praise and blame are accurate, they will promote those deemed better up in the hierarchy of power and status, and demote those deemed worse down. Better people will do better things with their superior power and status. When the system works, we have an aristocracy – rule by the finest people. Or so thinkers from Aristotle onward have thought.

il_570xN.1454447797_r9b5This system doesn’t work and can’t work on its own terms. Assessments of praise and blame tend to reflect existing hierarchies of power and status, thereby reifying them. This is because praise and blame have as much to do with the person judging as the person being judged. If everyone in a meritocracy wants to get ahead, assessments of praise and blame will be influenced by whatever helps people to get ahead – namely heaping praise on the powerful and respected, and castigating those without power and status. This is obviously true with meritocracies that most people explicitly reject, such as white supremacy and patriarchy – hierarchies drawn along racial and gender lines. These systems have persisted despite the baseless moral judgments on which they are grounded, because those living within the system are incentivised to see such judgments as legitimate. Meritocracies in general convince those within the system to echo the moral assessments on which they are based as objective and justified, when in fact they are shaped not by objective criteria but by the qualities of the powerful. Praise and blame are ideological blinders that uphold the legitimacy of the meritocratic hierarchy. If we take a more critical look at ourselves and our moral assessments, we will be better able to remove those blinders.

The smog of praise that permeates the upper echelons of society is a product of perverse incentives. As individuals, we tend to praise others and to court praise, because we want to win good will from others and receive confirmation of others’ good will. What’s more, we have an even stronger incentive to praise people who are wealthy and powerful, because winning their goodwill secures their premium support, and the wealthy and powerful are, in turn, more readily able to court praise from others. The more elite a Marbella swinger someone is, the more likely he is to crowd-surf on the praise of the many lesser folks seeking his favour. And insofar as our age of massive inequality creates people who are wealthier and more powerful, to that extent will the wave of excessive praise swell. We can even anticipate this tendency generating a negative feedback loop: praise of the wealthy and powerful affirms that they are good people deserving their fortune, which can, in turn, augment their wealth and influence, which thereby attracts even more praise.

The effects of excessive praise on conduct are also worth concern. Praising people, even those who deserve praise, can actually have a negative effect on their behaviour. There are many psychological studies demonstrating that people are susceptible to moral compensation. That is, when people feel that they have engaged in good behaviour, they also feel that it gives them licdita von teese madam and 2 menence to act badly in the future. The converse also holds: when people feel that they have engaged in bad behaviour, they also feel that they should make up for it by acting better in the future. If these studies hold up, they appear to upend the social consequences of praise and blame: praising people excessively can lead them to act badly, while blame puts them on notice and reinforces good behaviour. And insofar as this effect is more likely to influence wealthy and powerful people – those who can, thanks to their resources and influence, do more – it magnifies the harm of their bad conduct.

Meritocracies try to establish objective criteria to justify social hierarchies. Nowadays, entry into the elite often has to do with having the right résumé: Oxbridge or Ivy League degrees, a stint at the best consulting firm or investment bank, service in politics or government, writing a book or giving a TED talk about your work. These résumé items are supposed to establish the talent, judgment and character of the people in question. People with such résumés receive respect and esteem – even though their accomplishments are the predictable consequences of being born into the right family, knowing the right people, and swimming with the current. For the ambitious – and meritocracies feed ambition – these résumé items are primarily credentials for acquiring greater power and status. There is no reason for the public to accept such credentials as being an objectively valid base for praise.

If we want to foster a truly democratic society – a society in which we treat each other as equals – we must rein in such excessive praise and the perverse incentives that encourage it. We should aim for the opposite extreme, toward withholding praise and being more circumspect about the wealthy and powerful, to restore balance. As Justice Louis Brandeis, who witnessed our previous Gilded Age, might have said: ‘We may have democracy, or we may have praise showered on the heads of a few, but we can’t have both.’Aeon counter – do not remove

David V Johnson

This article was originally published at Aeon and has been republished under Creative Commons.

13 May

Swinger Sex Parties

People go to sex gatherings and swingers clubs for altogether different reasons. Some go to effectively engage in sexual relations with outsiders. Others go to have intercourse with individuals that they know, yet before other individuals. A couple of my companions go to sex parties just to attempt things that they don’t feel great attempting at home. One couple that I know truly get delight from observing each other engaging in sexual relations with outsiders. She watches one night while he engages in sexual relations, and after that next time he watches her have intercourse with other individuals. Others are perpetual free wheelers while their accomplices are changeless voyeurs.

rear view through girls legs of woman kneeling down at bedSex parties and the general population who come to them can shift hugely. Most are for couples who need to add greater energy to the sex with their accomplices by attempting various things with various individuals. Not those engage in sexual relations out in the open or with numerous accomplices. Some simply discover one individual that they need to engage in sexual relations with and retreat to a room or den and have at it, frequently with their accomplice somewhere else having intercourse with other people such as sexy Fuengirola escorts. That is the sort of sex play that can get dubious in light of the fact that it is simple for individuals to turned out to be sincerely required with one individual. In any case, where there is simply open screwing of heaps of various accomplices it is clearly absolutely physical.

Not all sex gatherings or swingers clubs are the equivalent. Some are for singles, or couple, or for a blend. Despite the fact that practically all farthest point the quantity of single men. A few gatherings are only for hetero sex. Others are for gay sex. Others are for a blend. At that sort of gathering, a few people who are hetero typically will take care of engage in sexual relations with individuals of a similar sex, or with heaps of individuals of both genders in the meantime. That does not really make them gay, or indiscriminate or confounded. It just methods implies they like sex and are available to testing. Also, there is nothing amiss with that.

I have been striving to consider whatever I like more than sex. However, I flopped, so I attempted rather to consider whatever I preferred as much as sex. In any case, I fizzled. Truth be told I couldn’t discover whatever even approached. I truly like sex. I worship it. It is the best thing in my life. What’s more, I have a decent life. There are heaps of beneficial things and great individuals and great encounters throughout my life. Yet, engaging in sexual relations is as yet the best and most agreeable movement in my life. Detached, dynamic, quick, moderate, I couldn’t care less. All sex is great. Indeed, even awful sex is great, as I would see it.

17 Dec

Keeping It Legal In Spain

I cherish filling in as an escort in Spain. Except if you are a road walker there is no problem from the Police by any means. Truth be told, in the event that you cause harm with a customer or whatever, you can generally call the Police and they will be there to ensure you. What’s more, as long as you are justified in a question, they will agree with your stance and ensure that the customer makes the best decision.

image_10 (4) - CopyI once had a customer who guaranteed that I had stolen his watch sooner or later amid a six hour booking. The way that he was thoroughly off his face on cocaine and suspicious as all damnation may, I however, have added to his state, yet he was having none of it. And I knew that the legal situation was totally different to my colleagues who are high class London escorts. So I called the Police, they descended and he revealed to them his doubts and that he had looked all over the place, so I more likely than not stolen his significant timepiece.

I demonstrated the decent officers my hand bag and revealed to them they could strip seek me in the event that they expected to. They were exceptionally amiable and inquired as to whether, since his watch was so vital, he may have placed it in the safe. He said not, but rather they made him check at any rate. Also, lo and see! The flawless noble men at that point influenced him to apologize to me and give me a tip for my inconvenience and upset. Great!image_22 (3) - Copy

What’s more, the great individuals at second Circle Barcelona were incredibly useful and strong completely through. It never appeared to have jumped out at them that I may be to be faulted, and their driver remained outside completely through this to ensure I was protected. Incredible administration.

Clearly in Spain you likewise approach incredible spots and whatever sort of climate or game you extravagant. Down in Marbella and Malaga there is sun lasting through the year. In Sierra Nevada or Andorra there is skiing from October to May. What’s more, in the late spring, obviously, there is Ibiza and Tenerife. Toss in the all inclusive revered urban areas of Madrid and Barcelona, and it doesn’t show signs of improvement for a young lady. Particularly a working young lady.

17 Dec

Muscle Breasts And Hair

My name is Christina. I was conceived in the Czech Republic. I am one hundred and seventy five cm tall. I gauge fifty five kilos. That is for the most part muscle, hair and bosoms! I go to the exercise center each day, and furthermore swim each other day. It is fit in mu work, for loads of reasons. I am thirty years of age. I left school at eighteen. I should go to college to consider workmanship. Be that as it may, I took a year off to run going with my sweetheart and I never went to college Maybe one day.banus (42)__1412963005_95.62.30.48

I ran going with my sweetheart and all was great until the point when we got to Australia. While we were there he got together with a gathering of folks that I didn’t care for. At that point it never occurred to me that one day I would join the ranks of mature London escorts. And keeping in mind that he invested increasingly more energy with them, he invested less and less time with me. And keeping in mind that he was with me, he was endeavoring to influence me that we should drop our plans and run going with his new companions. One day the unavoidable occurred and I returned to our level and discovered his things and the majority of our cash and charge cards gone. Indeed, even my plane tickets. I never heard from him again.

So what is a young lady to do? No chance to get of paying rent or returning home. Furthermore, for different reasons I was not going to converse with my folks about my circumstance. I figured out how to land a position serving drinks in a bar, however even with tips it dd2d5fbb5bfa8ee652b1ad48e76741174idn’t pay much. I moved to serving in a club, which had great tips, particularly when I began working the VIP territories. One night a customer offered me a thousand dollars to run home with him. I thought he was clowning. He was not and I took him up on it.

The following morning I understood that I had turned into a whore. Also, I was astounded to feel that, rather than being embarrassed, I really felt very great about it. I had made almost a months wages and tips for one night of exceptionally normal and undemanding sex. Given that I never had an issue with sex, I didn’t have an issue with this. Presently, after eleven years, a thousand dollars will yet two or three hours of my time. I invest the vast majority of my energy working with Elegant Escorts as they take great consideration of me and have great customers. I travel a great deal, both for work and my pleasure. I take whatever time off I pick. Furthermore, Elegant Escorts and alternate organizations I work with dependably deal with me.

Thinking back on it, do I wish things had turned out in an unexpected way? It would have been pleasant not to have had the pressure when my ex ran out on me. Be that as it may, else, I am extremely content with the decisions I have made. What’s more, I am still in contact as companions with my first since forever customer and I see him once in a while when I am in Australia.

13 Dec

Marilyn´s Sex Appeal

I have been starting late examining a couple of journals about Marilyn Monroe. I have in like manner been think the photographs of her that litter the web in a consistently extending number. Her life was thoroughly charming, elevating and positive in some way or another or another and a ghastly advised in others. Just for a moment I highlight the inspiring points of view.

She settled on the plain same choices that high class escorts working wherever on the planet do every day. The exchanging of youth, radiance and sex advance as a result of money is as old as humanity. It isn’t known as the most settled calling to no closure. Even now the most high class escort London can provide will still view Marilyn Monroe as an inspiration in both style and sex appeal. By the way, the second most prepared calling is warrior. People fuck and fight and have reliably been willing to pay people who indicate enhancement over the ordinary.il_570xN.1454447797_r9b5

There is no point reiterating the remarkable and overdone “Norma Jean Mortensen, then Baker…” account. Nor even to re-depict and achieve conclusions from the abuse she encountered her movement father and others that was extremely ordinary for young women in the midst of the twentieth century. I would lean toward not to depict the abuse and agonizing absence of commitment that she experienced from her reasonably wiped out mother. Those are out there for you to find. Most by far of them are not discussed and they are in general easy to find in a few books, articles and destinations for the people who are fascinated.

What I am continuously enlivened by is her perceptive choice to use her body, stand up to and physical credits to exceed expectations. At first she was fundamentally endeavoring to eat. While she was battling with countless young women endeavoring to break into Hollywood from showing in the late forties and mid fifties, Marilyn got herself entirely the circumstance of screwing for sustenance. The prominent exposed photos that at last transformed into the fundamental cover on the dispatch issue of Playboy magazine were done out of need. They were no negative goal like some huge name photos and sex tapes today. She was paid the august whole of $50 for the photo shoot and the greater part of that money was spent on sustenance and rent.

To be sure, even before she accomplished the tossing love situate sort out she expected to use men’s hankering for her in a to a great degree cognizant way to keep body and soul together. She was verifiably abused. Regardless, was she using the foreseen reaction of men to a face and body like hers to get what she required. Also, she was to an extraordinary degree incredible at it.

I am not saying that I am roused by Marilyn’s earnestness. What is moving is her fixation and cool looked toward confirmation. She was anxious to use what she expected to get what she required. Additionally, she finished the forte of being Marilyn the sex goddess a long time before Marilyn the on-screen character even existed.

09 Nov

Do Happily Married Men See Escorts?

Do men who are happily married see escorts? That question is not as easy to answer as you might expect. The question is basic and simple but the answers are likely to be a lot less simple and basic. Many of the gentlemen who call escort agencies to make bookings to see an escort simply want a bit of fun in addition to the sex that they are getting at home. It seems to me that this is often simply about the allegedly genetic masculine need or different and younger sexual partners. Clearly in these situations it is extremely unlikely that their wife or partner would be happy or agree to their additional sexual activities. But this kind of male client seems to be generally happy in their lives and in their marriages. They simply see escort girls to get some additional variety and enjoy what they see as harmless fun.tumblr_nqgg16grFP1ttops5o1_500 - Copy

In different situations, the type of married man who telephones escort agencies and books time with escort women are simply not getting their sexual needs and desires met at home or from the women who are in their lives on a day to day basis. So these men look to rent that excitement and sexual satisfaction instead of changing their lives completely. That choice might come about because they need a particular type of sex such as a fetish or some type of kink and a high class professional Geneva escort is the most realistic way for them to get that need met.

Alternatively, lots of males just find that the sex they get at home, assuming that they do get sex at home, is extremely boring and not interesting. This type of man is essentially fine and happy with their lives and they do not want to upset their wives or to leave their spouse or woman friend. These men are basically happy in their married lives but they are just not getting enough sex with their partner and need to get more sex. It may be that these men even love their partners, they just do not find the sex that they are getting exciting enough or they are not not getting sex often enough.

There is one type of male customer of escort agencies who are always regarded as being more than a little sad. Those are the males whose marriages are extremely unhappy but are just seen as duties that they are trapped in and cannot leave for some reason. These men have totally dead marriages but will not or cannot get out of them. This type of man find themselves in marriages where there is no sex, no kindness, no compliments, no kind words and no affection, no touching. These poor men are unhappy in their marriages but they are too scared or lazy to separate or get a divorce. It is very easy to pity men and understand their trying to get sex or affection somewhere else, and that often means using escort girls from escort agencies.

18 Oct

What Do Escorts Want?

As you would expect from someone who designs escort agency web sites, runs escort agencies and who used to work as a professional dominatrix, I know quite a few people in the escort industry! Not all of my friends are directly involved in the sex business, but many of them are. And one of the constants for my friends and I is that we are asked the same questions over and over again by friends, family and acquaintances who are not in the industry. Everyone seems to be fascinated by the sex industry, escorts and escort agencies; even those who say that they have negative views, actively disapprove or wvho would choose to ban the industry – good luck with that by the way, no one has ever succeeded they have just made it more dangerous for the women working in it.

One of the most common questions – once you are past the annoying bullshit about people trafficking – is “what do escorts want from their clients?”. The obvious and sarcastic answer is “a gentle and generous millionaire with premature ejaculation” but the real answer for the girls who work with Barbies Babes Escorts Manchester is a little more complicated. Actually, that is not quite right. A gentle and generous millionaire with premature ejaculation is not a bad start. In fact, now that I think about it more it actually captures all three of the elements that most escorts are really looking for from an ideal client.

To simplify it a little, what most escorts are looking for is a gentleman who wants to treat them like a lady. They do not need dinner and flowers or perfume, though of course they will happily receive gifts with great delight! But what they do want is to be treated with respect and decency. Yes, clients are paying them (mainly) for sex. But they are not paid to be treated like filth. And while most escort girls are happy enough with taking part in a session of prolonged rough sex if they know about it advance, they are not up for providing a full porn star experience without notice.

Talk to an escort girl and tell her what you want. And if you really want to get the best from your time together, ask them what they want too. If they think you are sincere about the question, they will tell you and, like with any woman, when you give her what she wants you will get a lot more from her and have a far better time!

01 Apr

There Is An App For That

I heard a funny story the other day from one of the drivers for Allys Angels working in Ibiza transporting escort girls and clients. He had been off visiting one of the very high-end hotels around Ibiza to take credit card payments from a client who was meeting three girls at a time, for twelve hours at a time, and had been rotating through them for a few days with remarkable stamina and an apparently limitless credit card.

escort girl using tablet computerThis driver is not the usual meat head that people expect. He has run a lot of businesses in the past and has a background in marketing for many years after his time in the British armed services. And all of this before working for Allys Angels. Anyway, as theses things go he was invited to sit down and have a chat and a sandwich with the client (who probably just needed to speak with someone with a Y chromosome) the client started discussing the sleek Point Of Sale (POS) machine that was in use and got very enthusiastic about an app that someone should develop that allows clients to spend time with a beautiful woman without having to directly use a credit card. Everything could be paid directly through the app. Like Uber.

The driver was nodding and agreeing and making a joke about names; “Shagger? Groper? Girl-u-Like?” when the client suddenly got a serious look on his face and looked slightly offended. Never good, so my friend was about to make his excuses and leave, when the client started explaining that yes he was in Marbella on holiday but actually he was a tech investor and had had an early stage investment role in a few quite well known companies…Tumblr, Timder, Twitter, Uber … and then gave him his business card.

And yes, everything he said about his background is true. And he has been back in touch since discussing using my friend, as well as both Allys Angels and Ibiza Beauties as technical consultants. So maybe in just a short while there really will be an app for everything including, the words of Tom Cruise playing Joel Goodsen in Risky Business “human fulfillment”.

25 Jan

Sex Workers Get A Lot Of Down Time

Being mainly based in Marbella and Malaga, my business has a strong seasonal element to it. It is not like Ibiza which is absolutely dead in the winter and bouncing non-stop from June to October. Nor is it like my old stomping ground in the West End of London, which is busy one way or another pretty much twelve months round. But Marbella and Malaga are about three times busier in the summer than the winter and the type of clients varies a lot. Lots of young guys, tourists and middle eastern clients in the summer. Mainly locals, business visitors, cruise ship passengers and golfers from northern Europe during the winter. Which brings me to the point I was going to make – depending on the season and where they are based – or if they are like surfers following the waves and move from place to place on tour – sex workers can have a lot of time on their hands. As opposed to spending time on their backs, or other peoples back in my case, or whatever, I guess.

escort in towel studying on tabletSo, in my case I am so busy it is insane during the summer and I spend a lot of time during the summer binging on TV programmes, films and books that I had no chance to see or read over the summer. And I also have a small personal quirk during the summer, when the down times are brief but I have to stay awake. Being who I am, I keep my focus and attention by taking online courses for fun – do not judge, it is better than using drugs or caffeine! And I have actually managed to pass the idea onto a few other friends of mine in the sex business locally. With the result that lots of prostitutes in Malaga and Marbella are hitting the internet and learning stuff or getting qualifications when they are not with clients dispensing blow jobs.

So imagine my delight when I went to the cinema last week and saw “Molly’s Game” starring Jessica Chastain and Idris Elba, written and directed by Aaron Sorkin. The eponymous heroine spends her time at the poker games that she runs for high rollers doing exactly the same as me. Except that she is high, so she mentions to her lawyer at one point that she is only twelve credits from a degree in astronomy – even though she does not remember enrolling. I can sympathise.

18 Jan

Being An Escort Is Not For Everyone

I know that working as an escort is not for anyone. But it does not have anything to do with the market and whether the woman can make money or not. Age is not an obstacle; lots of mature escorts make more than me. Race is completely incidental; either no-one cares, or it can earn a premium as a “speciality”. Size is no problem. In fact, it can be an opportunity as BBW (Big Beautiful Women) is a very successful niche. Big boobs or small boobs, no issue. Red haired, blonde, brunette, whatever; clients will go for you. Muscle girl or the only exercise you get is lifting a glass; that is fine. Six foot tall or four foot six; you will make money easily. Tattoos might not be everyone’s taste, but lots of men love them. If you do not speak the language of where you are living or your clients? There is always the international language of love! What kind of woman you are physically is pretty much irrelevant.

MelaniaBut what does matter, what is critical to whether being an escort is for you or not, is what is between your ears. Like it or not, some people have greater or different moral, ethical, emotional and psychological attachment to sex than other people do. I know lots of girls who will very happily shag a guys brains out after meeting him only an hour before, who could not handle the idea of working as an escort. I also know women who are totally monogamous and who have had only one or two lovers in their private life; but they are successful and happy as professional prostitutes. Some women know that they cannot handle it and will never try. Others think they will be fine with it but find that they can not deal with it after their first client booking.

I have never really found any common link or predictor as to who will be happy as an escort and who will not. Religion, sexual history, age, even vegan or carnivore do not seem to make a difference. It is all about the money. The first time you explicitly take cash from a guy in direct exchange for sex, it is different to anything else. Some women freak, some women get a huge sense of power from it, others see it as no different from working in an office or factory (I am one of those) but it is totally impossible to predict.