Archive for January, 2018

25 Jan

Sex Workers Get A Lot Of Down Time

Being mainly based in Marbella and Malaga, my business has a strong seasonal element to it. It is not like Ibiza which is absolutely dead in the winter and bouncing non-stop from June to October. Nor is it like my old stomping ground in the West End of London, which is busy one way or another pretty much twelve months round. But Marbella and Malaga are about three times busier in the summer than the winter and the type of clients varies a lot. Lots of young guys, tourists and middle eastern clients in the summer. Mainly locals, business visitors, cruise ship passengers and golfers from northern Europe during the winter. Which brings me to the point I was going to make – depending on the season and where they are based – or if they are like surfers following the waves and move from place to place on tour – sex workers can have a lot of time on their hands. As opposed to spending time on their backs, or other peoples back in my case, or whatever, I guess.

escort in towel studying on tabletSo, in my case I am so busy it is insane during the summer and I spend a lot of time during the summer binging on TV programmes, films and books that I had no chance to see or read over the summer. And I also have a small personal quirk during the summer, when the down times are brief but I have to stay awake. Being who I am, I keep my focus and attention by taking online courses for fun – do not judge, it is better than using drugs or caffeine! And I have actually managed to pass the idea onto a few other friends of mine in the sex business locally. With the result that lots of prostitutes in Malaga and Marbella are hitting the internet and learning stuff or getting qualifications when they are not with clients dispensing blow jobs.

So imagine my delight when I went to the cinema last week and saw “Molly’s Game” starring Jessica Chastain and Idris Elba, written and directed by Aaron Sorkin. The eponymous heroine spends her time at the poker games that she runs for high rollers doing exactly the same as me. Except that she is high, so she mentions to her lawyer at one point that she is only twelve credits from a degree in astronomy – even though she does not remember enrolling. I can sympathise.

18 Jan

Being An Escort Is Not For Everyone

I know that working as an escort is not for anyone. But it does not have anything to do with the market and whether the woman can make money or not. Age is not an obstacle; lots of mature escorts make more than me. Race is completely incidental; either no-one cares, or it can earn a premium as a “speciality”. Size is no problem. In fact, it can be an opportunity as BBW (Big Beautiful Women) is a very successful niche. Big boobs or small boobs, no issue. Red haired, blonde, brunette, whatever; clients will go for you. Muscle girl or the only exercise you get is lifting a glass; that is fine. Six foot tall or four foot six; you will make money easily. Tattoos might not be everyone’s taste, but lots of men love them. If you do not speak the language of where you are living or your clients? There is always the international language of love! What kind of woman you are physically is pretty much irrelevant.

MelaniaBut what does matter, what is critical to whether being an escort is for you or not, is what is between your ears. Like it or not, some people have greater or different moral, ethical, emotional and psychological attachment to sex than other people do. I know lots of girls who will very happily shag a guys brains out after meeting him only an hour before, who could not handle the idea of working as an escort. I also know women who are totally monogamous and who have had only one or two lovers in their private life; but they are successful and happy as professional prostitutes. Some women know that they cannot handle it and will never try. Others think they will be fine with it but find that they can not deal with it after their first client booking.

I have never really found any common link or predictor as to who will be happy as an escort and who will not. Religion, sexual history, age, even vegan or carnivore do not seem to make a difference. It is all about the money. The first time you explicitly take cash from a guy in direct exchange for sex, it is different to anything else. Some women freak, some women get a huge sense of power from it, others see it as no different from working in an office or factory (I am one of those) but it is totally impossible to predict.